I thought I would start with writing about one of the biggest parts of my practice, anger management. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about what anger management is, and even misunderstandings of what anger itself is! I would like to talk a bit about what anger is, signs that you may have an issue managing your anger, and a bit about the process of learning to manage it.
Anger is a basic emotion. All people feel it. All people will feel it all throughout their lives. Anger is a normal response, emotional, cognitive, and physiological to some grievance, real or imagined that may take place or have taken place in the past, present, or future. In the split second it takes you to get angry, you nonconscoiusly take into consideration your past experiences and possible future consequences to address the present situation. A bit complicated, right? Most people don’t think about it any longer than necessary. I can’t blame them, because it can be scary!
If you’re wondering if your anger is abnormal, you can ask yourself a few simple questions:
· Do I get angry more often than most people or more often than I would like?
· Is my anger more intense than most peoples’ or more intense than I would like?
· When I get angry, do I stay angry longer than most people or longer than I would like?
· Is there something specific than gets me angry that wouldn’t get most people angry?
· Has anger caused difficulties in your friendships, relationships, or at work?
If you answered “Yes” to any of these, you might benefit from working on managing your anger.
In therapy we can take a couple of different directions: We can dive into the source of your anger or start right off with understanding what anger is and learning tools to address your anger. It all really depends on your preference and how severe your issues are. We will talk about your childhood and how you came to understand anger when you were young to understand the source of your anger. We will relate that to how you experience anger now and work to change the way you think about anger. If we think it’s best to jump strait into addressing your anger, we will focus more on changing behavior. Eventually after you change your behavior frequently and consistently enough, your emotions and cognitions will follow.
You can always call or email me to set up a time to talk more about your anger. Like with all my psychotherapy sessions, there is no obligation to continue on if you do not feel we will work well together. You only pay if you wish to continue after that first session and I guarantee every session! See the contact page for more info!